I wrote that the INTJ will ignore the situation - not that she didn't notice the situation. I stopped playing with them and came back to my imaginary world. INTJ here saying that this is highly accurate. Are there any INTJs out there who are nurses? I'm not competitive in the least. Tessa has been a confirmed INTJ woman for more than 40 years. Here trying to learn about INTJ women, where they congregate, and how to go about meeting them. Like one of the responses noted, we all have different backgrounds that we are coming from. I'd also include Michael Crichton and Robin Cook. Dont get me wrong. You have no idea what analysis Michele Obama undertook. Natural leaders and highly competent they may be, but they are often misunderstood. Have you considered Borderline Personality Disorder or Histrionic Personality Disorder? I see an important distinction here between your response & mine because there is an important difference in taking leadership for leadership sake and taking leadership out of necessity. INTJ Girlhood. The work force in the USA is no more extraverted in the USA than in any other country. I think architect is a perfect description of what it like for my brain. Finding a forum to express this and share this enthusiasm is just icing on the cake!! But when it comes to a handful of my friends I really enjoy long, deep conversations about things that matter. Bottom line is INTJ's love all sorts of things in this world and they explore them intellectually as well as by having experiences. Tessa Schlesinger (author) on January 19, 2017: Tanya White, I have often wondered that myself. As most women tend to share virtually everything of their private lives with other females, the INTJ female runs into difficulties. Instead of saying the basics of INTJ's we need to dive into this personality with more depth. She of course did not get treated for her disorder as treatment was no benefit to her. If it seemed that she was impaired, I would gently ask her to excuse herself, and/or privately ask her to give me a personal assessment of impairment. INTJ women are very private, and they don't share as much with other women. This quote, case in point: “I recognize that the council has made a … Female INTJs are more rare than any other group. I'm very adept at understanding people's emotions and motivations. They are the only people I connect to. I only speak of personal experience to help the next person. The older I get the more complete the puzzle and the easier it is to understand new information. The only one that is consistently accurate is the INTJ. You can be both a rare personality type and mentally unwell; it happens to more than just one of us. Anyway, I guess I'm trying to find out if anyone else is good at the emotional aspect. I have always tested INTJ and agree that it reflects my personality. I did very well in an investigative position for a state university. Regarding trying to explain to others why we are like we are, I would be very careful whom you chose to discuss this with. When seeking a fulfilling relationship, an INTJ woman will look for a person with whom she can create an equivalent partnership, where both partners invest in one another and help each other to reach their life goals. Tessa Schlesinger (author) on July 09, 2020: That's a really good idea. I've learnt to do with very little, but at least I am not heavily distressed all the time. She held a press conference immediately following a return flight where we watched the Clint Eastwood movie, American Sniper, which is based on the "Autobiography of the most lethal sniper in U.S. military history," according to Wikipedia. I struggled with it a lot as a kid, feeling left out and alone, and had a steep learning curve to try and assimilate with the majority. Wow. 32 years on, I still feel the loss of my father and I wonder if he is alive in some shape or form. Couldn't resist clicking on this article because my tests have revealed that I am INTJ. And their assumptions about why, are annoying. And I totally love learning new things. They will appreciate that, and they will give you an honest, direct answer. Female INTJs will disobey authority if the think authority wrong. Check it now. I do have a bachelors degree. Ive come to call myself #thatotherZulugirl because I have noticed I am not normal just the other one that most people do not understand me and I fail at having to explain myself everytime I'm with a new group of people. I think the character is probably based on the astronomer Mary Somerville, so that’s neat as well. INTJ Female: The Unicorn Amongst The Humans. Whats the best rule book for dealing with people who make NO sense at all and are always contradicting themselves but won't acknowledge it? Instead, after my adventures with other humans, I go home to my quite space and recharge and relax. What are your home circumstances? Frankly, I think fiction is missing out on some interesting characters by ignoring the opportunity that female INTJs … Corporations often use the MBTI to determine whether the person is well-suited to a particular job or not. The one thing I would say though is that it is also important to pay attention to the degree to which you fall into each category, (I.T.N.J), if you are borderline on your I, for example, then maybe some of these points aren't as relateable. The INTJ that raises the bar for INTJ all across worlds be real and fictitious. We have a rare personality, but I like the idea that not completely conforming to the traits of that personality makes me even more rare. Dark or “dry” humor may appear insensitive to others, particularly coming from a female. creative and open minded, yet adhere to planning. So, I had a great time. Interesting to note also that Women with INTJ were inborn and they have it developed from within their structure and personality. Thinker: The T stands for thinker (as opposed to feeler), and this means that decisions are based on a process of deduction and analysis rather than what she feels. I have written amore detailed book about being an INTJ women. One can know more than others but be aware of how little one knows. This can deepen anxiety in social situations, making it increasingly difficult to relax. First, unless the INTJ is a military behavior expert, he or she would most likely avoid getting involved with such controversy. About the romance thing, I'm in a relationship of around 25 years and I think the reason is that I get left alone most of the time and ignored by a quite eccentric partner who is crap at talking through anything and at any kind of decision making and conflict. I would actually be really grateful if anybody knows how is a good way to deal with things, or whether I just have to resign myself to being a bit of a mess forever and hope time. Not just me, it changed my best friend's as well; he is a dysfunctional genius. The INTJ individual is best suited to science, and while many believe that the scientist deals only in facts, it is the outstanding scientist who uses imagination to extrapolate possible interpretations of data as well as find commercial and industrial uses for new discoveries. They are not supportive of others. Another time, in another city and another place, I kept thinking about a mutual friend of myself and that guy, also from school days. I'm an INTJ woman married to an INTJ man. About 2.5% of the entire human population has an INTJ … We create explanation's to reduce our fear and I can see how that is rational as if we think we understand perhaps we can control. She is speaking to a cross section of the general public and needs to be understood at all levels and by all people. Sharing personal information for a greater cause is easy. A female INTJ teen’s capacity for handling difficulties like this largely depends on the depth of character and self-respect cultivated earlier in life, during the childhood years. I suspect we will all probably cease to exist in any form. It seems though that most everything said about INTJ is true in my case. For instance I know how much happier I am with friends - my friends all like to hug, like to make small talk etc. A better psychological assessment is the Big Five, as it is considered valid in legitimate social sciences research, unlike MBTI. So I was always cast out and it hurt. Pressure to meet social expectations can drive the female INTJ to take refuge inside her own mind in order to avoid external judgment. I can hear my co-workers gossiping every morning and it’s so distracting that I have to turn on a fan to drown it out. Tessa Schlesinger (author) on June 25, 2017: blackberrystone, I'm not sure that being an INTJ is a bit of a mess. Smaking your child is not illegal. Because their methods arent good enough and will cause future problems. I didn't even know that anything I had to say was important, or that other people might want to hear it. I just discovered that a female INTJ. (I never write anything without checking it six or seven times). The Grim Adventures of Billy and Mandy follows the lives of … I have rechecked Milgram's figures, and clearly since the time I wrote the article, the numbers have changed. They are also the most likely to be skeptics and humanists. Are you speaking of purely IQ here or a 'basket" of talents and interests or a combination of all these? I worked alone with very little supervision because my bosses had no idea how I worked and only wanted results that recovered money for the university. Couldn't she see our co-worker was doing her best to hold it together? Ask most people a question and there will always be an answer, even if they don't know what they are talking about. *grin*. I've always wondered why I am nothing like my female friends and why they seem to have so much difficulty in understanding my logic or my interest in science and logical sequential thinking( I work in the data field ). Then we drive ourselves to distraction because we want the answers. Try to be something we aren't? That complicates interactions between the INTJ teen and her non-INTJ counterparts. I would have expected more since it was a room full of software engineers and analysts. Ive decided to finally comment because everyones comments have become predictable. I never understood flirting or courting. There was a clear difference how the relatives sweetly responded to my sister (an ENFJ) whereas clearly spoke to me like they would talk with adults. Your pregnant woman example, while I understand the intention, is again too specific of a scenario, yet you'd use it to type someone (a determination entirely unrelated to any MBTI assessment questions). INTJ women are one of the most flexible and interesting characters of the MBTI personality types. I just had to accept them. For every five hundred women, only four have an INTJ profile. It means that she draws from stored unconscious knowledge accrued through the years from books, movies, other people, experience, and reflection. MBPT answered many questions for me when i finally received the designator. In a work situation, this can present a real problem because the slightest hint of "personality disorder" can sabotage a career. Also a stunning lesson for me. I successfully spent much of my life fighting an overtly coercive, judgmental environment full of expectations. #ThatOtherZuluGirl on September 21, 2017: I came across this test at a point of a "finding myself" period in life. But it would be great if you make another article about INTP Women :) Thank you Tessa! FAQ about INTJ characters. All psychological profiling is only as accurate as the self-knowledge and honesty of the person answering them. Never had a clue! My father-in-law told me that he would phone me everyday to make sure I was coping. What are some INTJ characters? I'm still nowhere near an average person. Tasks that don’t make sense or that are counterproductive to the INTJ’s perceived position may be refused. They can analyze (compare this information) with ease as a result of this highly organized structure. It's veyr hard to get disability in the States, though. Thank you so much for providing direction and as I was not into such MBTI things before but this read makes me feel really comfortable. : ). Those days are gone. They stay at home, go see a doctor, decide whether they can cope or not. My results and learning the traits explained so many things for me. INTJ females like to prepare themselves for intellectually challenging discussions, or simply learn something new. Unfortunately people become attached to the descriptions, which honestly are more like stereotypes. I'm so glad he did! I usually identify with male characters more than female ones for that very reason, they can be who they are and it comes off as cool, but if it’s a female they are too manly or cold. I'm not a freak after all. This leads, to some degree, to introversion, as the interesting stuff that gives pleasure is going on in our heads. My parenting skills are different, a stubborn and not so submissive Zulu wife). Certainly when one doesn't pander to the emotional fragility of others, it does mean that it is diffiult to work in some groups. Also, typing someone based on a short comment in response to an article is ridiculous as it could not possibly provide enough information. Because a lot is really easy for us... Im not an Atheist. Other names for INTJs are strategists and system-builders. Trunk got those readers because she gives INTJs exactly what we want: blunt, no-nonsense answers. It certainly is not a dull existence! Do not use this as if your personal experience constitutes the entire type. Those who are more evenly balanced are actually better decision makers. Outstanding, in fact. We should study and do things that will make us uncomfortable and are a challenge. One of my hobbies is sewing and it fits beautifully into this. She relates to others in an intellectual and objective way. I much prefer Non fiction over everything else. We have many "gifts" - music, acting, intelligent, writing, leadership, public speaking and all forms of creativity. You would need to be a telepath and read the thoughts and feelingns of someone to determine what they were actually feeling. however, I am shadow of my former self. I understand them completely. They probably use their intelligence to observe others and then role play expected behavior when interacting with them.. At least, that's what I do. Only the designer of the test assumed that I must therefore be competitive, and work hard to be first. Nor are INTJs 'lower in empathy.' It is to make the asker feel like a good person. Does the fact that I love dressing beautifully make me less of an introvert? Because they hold the copyright and require that a trained and certified professional translate the results for you, this test is not free—it usually costs about $50. After doing some more thinking, Paula Jones came back to me to say, "I'm with +Susan Stone on being data oriented. Because she is a very private person, it takes a while to get to know them. How can I connect with other INTJs? An INTJ would not allow a spectatorial, political opinion, aimed at complete disregard for intellectual analysis, to be elevated to a much higher level. Less than 1% of females fall into the INTJ classification. I have found it to be a blessing and a curse. INTJs are private, independent and self-confident. I have loved getting to know this information because it has helped me understand myself a thousand times better than I did prior. I just went back to school for a Masters' Degree and for my first class I had to take the Jung Personality Test. While there are many wonderful things about this personality type, we set ourselves up for a harder time when presenting the personality type as a know-it-all or borderline psychopath by nature. There are few social rules where it doesn't make sense because social repercussions are so negative. It's never 'true' however and I've certainly come to terms with being a bit of an odd fish, and increasingly confident to be so as ultimately, it is *me*. I am a very emotional and sensitive person (part of why I've worked so hard on my relationships with friends) and I unfortunately somebody extremely important in my life was killed a few years ago. The INTJ develops precise structures in the brain from early childhood. For the sake of our sanity and privacy and peace. Or, we enjoy putting thoughts together (Thinking) and drawing conclusions from how well the concept flies in reality (J). Does that make me or anyone else with more evenly balanced scores less of an INTJ? So in my first fifty or sixty friends, I managed to gain three new female INTJ connections. I have never been a follower of Obama, but there was one random televised event in which I had the opportunity to clearly see her personality. I just need space and become grumpy if I do not have it. I just wanted two answers. They want you to open up and talk to people about it, but I don't know about other INTJs but this is exactly as helpful as hitting my head on the wall. So what are you suggesting? I just can't comply. Then there was the employee test that I did at JC Penny. I was raised in a home with an alcoholic father and co-dependent mother. I moved to the job of principal where I am very good at analyzing teachers, students, data, schedules, rules, regulations, budgets, and parents. Keep sharing and you'll find more of us. Perhaps I should write a INTJ female lead. This situation can be exacerbated by the presence of a sibling, particularly a female sibling who meets the “normal” criteria of being feminine and empathetic. However, as women are often expected to be the nurturers and communicators of the community, the INTJ woman is at odds with the norm. Now here's an interesting twist. I personally don't believe that there is anything after death, so I try simply to accept that I don't know the answers. What I needed them to do was babysit, cook meals and clean my house. The INTJ girl-child may compete with her sibling for her parents’ attention by becoming a perfectionist and arrogant. I prefer to work with people who are in agreement with me rather than with people who aren't. One part of your article struck me in particular as how INTJs are misunderstood, which is regarding empathy and kindness. I have actually found a female INTJ character who is not evil! The core of an INTJ will be the same. They also hate small talk and see it as a waste of time. The way in which this competitiveness shows itself will differ from one INTJ female to another, though academic superiority is almost universal. Carolina - I'm sure have a point to your post but I'm sorry to say it escapes me. Normally, to meet three other INTJ women, there would have to be about two thousand women in the room (I'm an INTJ). She can LEAVE sooner, and go and be where she needs to be, for her health! I remember that when I was tested I was the only Intj in a group of 100. She can be - but only because her serious demeanor is misunderstood. Because the INTJ woman is very different, it means that she is often misunderstood. She had to go to the back and calm down. While it was interesting and very informative to read about the INTJ personality, it was much more liberating to read the comments of real human beings for whom these character traits are personal. They do not have identical points of view or values on all things. She does not anticipate that the woman requires emotional support. At the age of 30 I had an identity crisis. I've learnt how to follow social rules and niceties to try and blend in because it's genuinely worth it on my part. My IQ has been consistently tested at 136 and dealing with other people has always been both a mystery and a challenge for me. I honestly couldnt care what the lable is. This is because of an INTJ's blunt, no-nonsense attitude or the fact that an INTJ will challenge authority if they believe they are wrong. Multiple tests from different sources? I wake up everyday knowing that I am unique, I am misunderstood, and that I make people uncomfortable. What I found more interesting was the lack of ego that often prevents us from acknowledging the most probable future we all have. I’m also 52% thinker and 48% feeler. :). We are open to new ideas that are valuable. I am timid, shy, insecure, unassertive, and everbody is using that for their won benefit. If the asker REALLY cared, they would do something practical for her without being asked, not drain the woman with questions, but help her in a concrete way. Some people get it though, and are relieved. Screw ourselves over?Blame ourselves? I will find a use for anything as waste is, well... a waste and i can exercise my creativity. Thank you for pointing it out. their main concern is what will be successful, and for that reason they will adopt whatever idea they feel is best. Usually the guys I went out with were those I took initiative to talk to. I was overly shy, didn't always make friends easily, would argue if I didn't think something made sense, and was happiest lost in books on my favorite topics (at the time, dinosaurs and whales, hahaha). In college, I took the test in a Personalities course, and the teacher was a certified tester. Think KitKat must have eaten some sour grapes that day. 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